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  • Jacinda Ardern proved a true leader knows when to step back. If only US politicians could do the same | Arwa Mahdawi

    Jacinda Ardern proved a true leader knows when to step back. If only US politicians could do the same | Arwa Mahdawi

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    ‘Can women have it all?’

    It was inevitable that someone was going to ask that most cliched of questions and, voilà, they did. Shortly after Jacinda Ardern’s shock resignation as New Zealand prime minister this week, the BBC tweeted out a story about Ardern balancing motherhood with politics, with a headline asking if women can really have it all. After being accused of “staggering sexism”, the BBC deleted the headline and apologised.

    Having it all. Please, someone, ban that stupid phrase already. It is 2023! I’m pretty sure we’ve spent at least a decade talking about the fact that nobody ever asks whether working dads can have it all. When Boris Johnson had two new kids during his tenure as prime minister of Britain there wasn’t a lot of handwringing about how he’d balance life with a newborn, and the responsibilities of being a father of seven with his job. When Elon Musk became a dad for the umpteenth time the BBC didn’t ask how he was going to balance fatherhood with colonizing Mars. Or, if they did, I must have missed that article.

    Forget “having it all”, Ardern showed us all a powerful new model of leadership. Our current model of leadership (which, shameless plug, I’ve written an entire book called Strong Female Lead about) often treats empathy as a weakness. Ardern showed us all that kindness and compassion aren’t weaknesses, they’re strengths. Our current model of leadership prioritizes confidence over competence and tends to reward arrogance. Ardern, meanwhile, has spoken about the importance of self-doubt. “Some of the people I admire the most have that self-consciousness and that slight gnawing lack of confidence,” the politician said in a 2020 interview. When impostor syndrome creeps in, she explained, she thinks about how to use it constructively. “Does [that self-doubt] mean I need to do a bit more prep, do I need to think more about my decision making?” Wouldn’t it be nice if more politicians went through that exercise?!

    For a long time, women have been told to “lean in” to a patriarchal model of leadership. They’ve been told that, in order to be successful, they have to mold themselves into the image of a leader dictated by men. Ardern didn’t do that. She led on her own terms. And, perhaps, most powerfully, she stopped leading on her own terms. “I know what this job takes,” Ardern said when she announced her resignation. “And I know that I no longer have enough in the tank to do it justice.”

    We tend to equate leadership with being the loudest voice in the room. But true leadership means knowing when it’s time to pass the mic. True leadership means knowing when it’s time to step back. Unfortunately most lawmakers, particularly in the US, seem desperate to hold on to power for as long as humanly possible even if it’s not for the greater good. I mean, do you know how old the average senator in the US is? 64.3 years old. That’s over 20 years older than Ardern. Joe Biden, the oldest president in American history, is 80 and is expected to run again in the 2024 election. Senator Chuck Grassley is 89 as is Senator Dianne Feinstein of California. There have been a lot of concerns about Feinstein’s cognitive health and yet she still refuses to say whether she’s going to run for another term or not. Does it really serve her constituents for her to have another term, or does it serve it her ego?

    I’m not saying that there should be an age limit in politics, by the way. Experience is important. But there’s a real problem when the same people cling to power for decades and refuse to make room for new blood. Ardern, 42, says she no longer has enough in the tank to do her job justice. I’ve got to wonder what on earth some long-serving politicians in the US have in their tanks. I’ve got a feeling it may be narcissism.

    Is Milf Manor the queasiest new dating show on TV?

    Betteridge’s law states that: “Any headline that ends in a question mark can be answered by the word no.” But having read this Guardian piece on a horrifying new reality show called MILF Manor I think I’ve found the exception to that law.

    The Taliban bought a ‘verified’ check mark on Twitter

    It now appears to have been removed after some understandable outrage.

    Sierra Leone passes landmark law on women’s rights

    Under the new Gender Equality and Women’s Empowerment Act 30% of public and private jobs must be reserved for women. The law also requires some employers to give at least 14-weeks of maternity leave.

    The ‘virgin speculum’: proof that medicine is still rife with outrageous myths about women

    Out of the 16 million women in the UK who were eligible for a cervical screening test in 2022, only 11.2 million took one. That’s the lowest level in a decade. As Jenny Halpern Prince writes in the Guardian, women might feel more comfortable taking the test if it were updated a little bit. As it is, the speculum that is used for the examination is called a “virgin speculum”. Prince is calling for it to be renamed the “extra-small speculum” or for its medical name, the Pederson speculum, to be used. “The term virgin speculum should be removed from use by medical device advertisers and the medical profession (it is currently taught in medical schools),” writes Prince. That does seem a little bit like a no-brainer.

    The Wrestling Federation of India (WFI) is having a #MeToo moment

    Top athletes have accused the WFI’s president and several coaches of sexual misconduct. This goes beyond wrestling because the WFI president, Brij Bhushan Sharan Singh, is also a lawmaker for the ruling Bharatiya Janata party.

    The week in passwordarchy

    Netflix has been threatening to crack down on password sharing for a while and now it looks like it’s finally happening. During its recent earnings report the streaming service announced that it will enforce password-sharing rules “more broadly” in the next few months. Not sure this is a great idea, Netflix. You’re going to find yourself quite literally cancelled.

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    ( With inputs from : www.theguardian.com )

  • US ‘cult’ leader given 60 years in prison for sexual and emotional abuse

    US ‘cult’ leader given 60 years in prison for sexual and emotional abuse

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    A financial fraudster who lured students at an elite New York liberal arts college into a cult-like world of sexual, physical and emotional abuse was sentenced on Friday to 60 years in federal prison.

    Larry Ray, born Lawrence Grecco, was found guilty in April of sex trafficking and racketeering, among other related charges, stemming from the psychological manipulation – and ensuing physical violence – against his daughter’s roommates at Sarah Lawrence College.

    “It was sadism, pure and simple,” Judge Lewis Liman said in handing down the sentence, shortly after saying that Ray, 63, used his “evil genius” to torment his victims.

    Authorities became aware of his criminal behavior following an explosive New York magazine feature.

    During Ray’s four-week Manhattan federal court trial – during which he had several medical episodes – prosecutors laid out a chilling chronology of events that started when Ray moved into his daughter’s dorm room around late 2010. Ray engaged in “therapy” sessions with some of her roommates under the false pretense of helping them navigate psychological issues.

    Ray cast himself as a “father figure”, and several of the roommates moved into an apartment in Manhattan’s Upper East Side neighborhood the following summer. The one-bedroom flat devolved into a house of horrors, they said in their indictment against him.

    Ray engaged in still more spurious “therapy” sessions with students, convincing them to reveal deeply “intimate” details about their lives. He subsequently “alienated” several of his victims from their parents and convinced some that they were “broken” and “in need of fixing” – by him, charging papers said

    After securing these students’ trust, Ray commenced “interrogation sessions” that mostly involved physical and verbal abuse. He made false allegations against the students during these sessions, including claims of property damage and, in one preposterous instance, accusations that one victim tried to poison him.

    Ray once put a knife against one male victim’s throat until he confessed to wrongdoing, and placed a chokehold around another male victim’s neck, making him lose consciousness.

    He slammed one female victim against the ground after she returned home with food that became cold. Ray also forced three female victims to work on a family property in North Carolina, where he kept food under lock and key – forcing them to work “in the middle of the night” and sleep outside despite the summer heat, prosecutors said in court papers.

    Four years after Ray entered these students’ lives, he told one female victim that she should engage in prostitution to repay him for purported property damage. The victim, Claudia Drury, did so from about 2014 to 2018.

    “I became a prostitute,” Drury testified and, according to the New York Times, said. “It was Larry’s suggestion.” Ray, who had sexually groomed Drury for several years prior, then pocketed more than $500,000 she had made from prostitution.

    Drury also told jurors that Ray became livid after she told one of her clients about parts of her life. He threatened to waterboard her.

    Drury provided a victim-impact statement to the court that was read by her friend.

    “It was unrelenting sadism,” Drury’s statement said.

    “It was hell – it was a deliberate, educated, and sustained campaign to break me,” Drury added. “Every time I was forced to prostitute myself … I felt myself getting more numb.”

    “I barely have the energy to exist day to day,” Drury also said of the ongoing emotional impact.

    Santos Rosario, who was also victimized by Ray, gave a victim-impact statement in court. “He drove me to attempt suicide more than once and at one point, I was contemplating it daily,” Rosario said.

    As Ray’s victims provided statements, he looked at them attentively, though showed no sign of emotion. When Ray entered his sentencing hearing, he walked with a limp, and wore headphones throughout the proceeding.

    In pushing for a life sentence, prosecutors said that “over a period of years, he intentionally inflicted brutal and life-long harm on innocent victims that he groomed and abused into submission”.

    “While the defendant’s victims descended into self-hatred, self-harm, and suicidal attempts under his coercive control, the evidence showed that the defendant took sadistic pleasure in their pain, and enjoyed the fruits of their suffering,” they argued in court papers.

    Prosectors vehemently argued that lust for money was not Ray’s only motivation. “He also enjoyed being cruel,” they argued.

    “It is obvious, for example, that his victims, without any experience with physical labor or construction equipment, had no real chance of making productive financial improvements to the property in North Carolina – and yet the defendant forced them to toil senselessly under punishing conditions for weeks on end simply to revel in their Sisyphean struggle,” they said.

    “When his victims expressed anguish or guilt, he feigned sympathy and twisted the knife in deeper.

    “He baited his victims to attempt suicide and then stymied their recoveries, while pretending to be the only one concerned with their wellbeing.” Their arguments in court echoed their sentencing paperwork.

    Ray’s defense, on the other hand, contended in court papers that any sentence exceeding 15 years would be “unnecessary”. They also claimed that Ray himself grew up in an abusive home.

    Ray’s grandmother hit him with a cat o’ nine tails, a “whip intended for severe physical punishment”. And, as Ray was forced to sleep on top of a pile of blankets in his grandmother’s basement, his grandfather sexually assaulted him, they said.

    When Ray’s lawyers had their chance to argue in favor of a less-than-life sentence, they extensively discussed his purported suffering. Ray didn’t have anyone at court to support him which, they said, “speaks volumes” – namely, that he is alone in the world following the recent deaths of his father, stepfather and stepmother.

    Ray also had the chance to address Liman and when he did so, largely cast himself as a victim, even appearing to choke up. “These three years I’ve spent in jail have been hell,” Ray said.

    Ray rattled off a list of alleged health maladies – numbing and tingling in his extremities, ear-ringing, “very frightening” lesions – and the many medical specialists who have not been able to determine what is wrong. “Being in jail has been horrible,” he said.

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    ( With inputs from : www.theguardian.com )